So far we’ve talked about the importance of equal need and availability between recovery friends. And, we’ve also discussed how to compassionately confront your friends. Now, we’ll help you learn how to ask questions that spark quality conversation.
Quality conversation leads to quality recovery.
Ingredient #3: Asking Good Questions
Learning to ask good questions as an accountability partner is a key ingredient for a recovery friendship. While it’s easier to give suggestions than to ask productive questions, questions awaken learning in your friends while suggestions can be part of stroking your own ego.
Here are some questions that can awaken learning and lead to growth if someone relapsed:
- What do you think was going on for you the other day when you acted out?
- What exactly did you do?
- What were your triggers?
- Is that all or is there more?
- What did you learn from the experience?
- Is there anything you need to change to avoid relapse?
Helpful questions for a check-in message could be:
- What’s been the high and low of the day?
- What’s your temptation level right now?
- Is there anything coming up later today or tomorrow that could be a trigger?
Questions like these invite reflection, learning, honesty and vulnerability.
Next time you are in the R|TRIBE app remember to ask your friend these questions. Or, you can send these questions to your friend so they can ask you.
That concludes our series. We hope that you’ve been able to add these ingredients to your recovery sauce!